The Narcissist,
Has little or any persona they reflect whom they are with if you like music say organ they like it too. The main thing to remember they are child like characters at heart.
My partner was a narc, so I became my own investigator as felt something was off? I noticed if we were holding hands as soon as 11:pm came they would snatch away no emotion to get ready for home. I never meet their friends, he would tell he was out with an old friend.
I was not invited in case I suspect they would tell me something the narc did not want known to me, they lead 2 or 3 different lives not wanting these lives to meet like planets in the sky.
But when I finished with narc I knew he would go to this sheltered housing complex, so I went along, he nearly died when he saw me? He was like a gremlin red nervous and I loved every minute. I found out he had this lady on a piece of string for 13 years, why she never suspected I don't know. He is gay and i called him out that night in front of them all. And informed them I was never asked to meet them.
Narcs should be called out he was arrogant and thought he was oh so clever! then he met me. My mom was a narc and I learned from a young age how to deal with my mother.
I also used all modern tracking devices to check on him and his adventures, it was early in the relationship, all appeared ok he did not lie he just did not tell you the full story. Below me being sneaky and why not we live in a very strange and evil world.
He now wants to be friends, the investigations will continue I have lots more to find out why? it is like a book and you want the end story I do Narcs have no love no respect no morals your an object to keep like a vase or a car, so you will never get that love you give back! I had my Narc car tracked and also read his fone while he was asleep. I know some think that is extreme, but I knew what I was dealing with.
1. Trauma Bonding they attach you to them by false love
2 Sneaky days without a explanation
3 Future promising of holidays etc etc never happening.
4 Triangulation when they set you up against ex partners
What I suggest is always meet his ex if he is still talking to them. speak to people who knew them as man and wife.
I found my narcs lies from his ex 18 months later, I knew he did not want me to meet her.
Narcs never invite you to their home, they come to you so no ones knows.
Always mirror their actions if he mentions his ex start mentioning yours, and invent a romantic person who loves you and would be in a relationship if you were not with the narc.
If his family know he/she is a narc they enable the action so do not expect any support there, they are glad they do not have to deal with it.
Narcs have addictions drugs, booze or porn.
Always make up a life that they have no part of do not introduce the narc to your friends, as they won't let you meet theirs.
Remember they are evil, cruel and dangerous to your health. I have many friends that helped and supported me through this awful time.
Also the next person they meet will go through the same treatment your lucky it is not you. My narc was arrogant and was never caught out till he entered my life. Venture over!
All the best
Chris Rogers 2025
